Would you ever allow your child to play at a friend?s house if you knew that family had unsecured, loaded weapons in the house?
Of course you wouldn?t. That would be crazy! It only takes once, right?
The same thing goes for unsecured internet access. It only takes once for your sons to be exposed to porn. Based on the way a male?s brain is hard-wired, those images will never leave him.
I have encountered many adult clients who can?still vividly recall the first pornographic image to which?they were exposed as a child or teenager.
When will your sons be exposed to porn? Personally, I?d like that day to be never, but we live in a fallen world. The question is no longer ?if my sons are exposed to porn? but ?when my sons are exposed to porn.? Even gaming devices ? the newer models come with wifi capability.
What are you going to do? How will you help them cope?
How will you prepare them for that day when it will happen. And I promise you, it will. We can?t keep our kids away from the internet forever.?This is an enormous topic with a lot of angles that is much bigger than a single blog post,, but one thing we?ve developed in our house is a call for integrity in the use of the internet. In fact, we?ve even gone so far as to develop a contract that we?ll use for our son who is about to turn ten years old, and who will be issued an iPad by his school upon entering the 6th grade.
We?ll make sure any device he uses has parental controls installed, of course, but every citadel has it?s weak spots, and we also will prepare him for what he might find or be exposed to, and things he might be tempted to do, or say, while using the internet.
I was inspired by a cell-phone contract written and published by Janell Hoffman, but I?ve made this more universal to the internet, not just a smart phone. Kids are using the internet even before they are using phones, so I?ve put a spin on the same idea and written a contract that I?ll use when my kids want or need their own online accounts.
Internet Integrity and Usage Contract
1.?We will always know your passwords. This technology is on loan to you; the hardware it?s on belongs to us, not you.
2.?Everything is permanent. Everything. You can never truly ?delete? anything you view, text, post, or email. Don?t put anything out there that might embarrass you when you are 40.
3.?Talk to your friends, don?t text. Communicating in person is a life-skill you need to learn.
4.?Do not use the internet or social media as a means of hurting other people. It is not a shield or a weapon. It is still you saying that to them?if you wouldn?t say it to their face, don?t text, post, or email it.
5.?Do not text, email, post or say anything that you don?t want to read about when you are a senator or CEO someday. Remember, everything is permanent. Everything.
6.?Avoid looking or browsing at websites or materials that degrade other human beings and/or dishonor God. (Note: whether or not your son is ready to even know that porn exists is up to your discretion. The last thing you want is for him to get curious and go looking for it. Our son was exposed to porn at the age of six. We are already talking about it, just like we would any other poison or sin he might encounter in his life.)?
7.?Technology doesn?t own you. You don?t have to bring it with you everywhere. Have the freedom to leave it home every once in a while.
8.?You have access to the music of the entire world. Be different. Mozart is awesome. So are Sufjan and Matisyahu.
9.?Don?t spend all your spare time on Angry Birds. Play games that make you think every once in a while.
10. With the internet you have access to extraordinary amounts of knowledge. You also have access to extraordinary amounts of junk. Don?t believe everything you read ? just because it?s online doesn?t make it true. If you?re not sure, ask us. We?ll show you how to find out what?s true and what?s not.
11.?Everything is permanent. Everything. Don?t ever email, text, or post something that will humiliate someone else, either today or when they are 40.
13.?When you mess up and lose your privileges, we?ll sit down and talk about it together. We will always love you, and we expect you to make mistakes. This is a learning process, but we want to help you learn from small mistakes now in order to avoid bigger mistakes later.
Like this? Here?s a printable?PDF.
Source: http://themobsociety.com/2013/05/instilling-integrity-internet-use-contract-for-kids-and-teens/
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